Time goes on, but the fundamental things in life never change.
There are many competent, able people available to perform task. To leave them idle is to invite misfortune.
In every love relationship there are struggles over dominance and equality, possessions and sharing, autonomy and togetherness. In every relationship an uneasy, usually temporary truce is achieved.
Right now you should look to what is your own, and not attempt to control or achieve mastery over what is not. Leave all these battles for another time.